{"id":2368,"date":"2013-12-07T00:48:33","date_gmt":"2013-12-07T05:48:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ohsodj.com\/?p=2368"},"modified":"2013-12-07T00:48:33","modified_gmt":"2013-12-07T05:48:33","slug":"dear-rashida-jones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ohsodj.com\/?p=2368","title":{"rendered":"Dear Rashida Jones"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"PremiereSo Rashida Jones is still frustrated with \u00a0women in the music industry.<\/p>\n

In Glamour,<\/em> she\u2019s now written a full-blown essay calling out Miley Cyrus, Nicki MInaj, and Rihanna.<\/p>\n

“If 1994 was the Year of O.J.’s White Bronco, 2013 was the Year of the Very Visible Vagina,” the 37-year-old actress wrote, criticizing “the Miley Cyrus cross-continental twerk-athon and<\/em> Nick Minaj’s Halloween pasties. With the addition of Rihanna writhing on a pole in her ‘Pour it Up’ video and Lady Gaga’s butt-crack cover art or the song that goes ‘Do what you want with my body,’ I was just done. I’d had enough.”\u00a0<\/em>Read the full essay HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/span>.<\/p>\n

It all started about a month ago, when she went on Twitter to vent her frustrations.<\/a><\/p>\n

“This week’s celeb news takeaway: she who comes closest to showing the actual inside of her vagina is most popular,” she wrote. “#stopactinglikewhores.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Well this caused a little bit of a backlash with people accusing Rashida of being self-righteous.<\/p>\n

In her Glamour e<\/em>ssay, she writes, \u201cI’m not gonna lie. The fact that I was accused of “slut-shaming,” being anti-woman, and judging women’s sex lives crushed me. I consider myself a feminist. I would never point a finger at a woman for her actual sexual behavior, and I think all women have the right to express their desires. But I will look at women with influence\u2014millionaire women who use their “sexiness” to make money\u2014and ask some questions. There is a difference, a key one, between “shaming” and “holding someone accountable.”<\/em><\/p>\n

(Big sigh) \u2026. When I saw this essay, I thought to myself, \u201care we still talking about this?\u201d<\/p>\n

Is this essay about Rashida’s ego being bruised or her truly wanting to generate a change? \u00a0So here’s my rebuttal….<\/p>\n

Dear Rashida,<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve read your essay and I agree with some of your thoughts. Yes, I have noticed an over-saturation of sex within pop culture and agree there\u2019s needs to be more thought into what images are put into the universe. I even agree that like it or not, those in the spotlight are labeled as role models. The title of role model will always be thrust upon the famous. However, they have to choose whether to accept it. No amount of Twitter or journalism-shaming will change that.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I feel like it does quite the opposite.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have a problem with you expressing your opinion. It\u2019s a right. I\u2019m obviously just as opinionated.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

But as the wiser of the bunch, I feel like you too have a responsibility.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I see that you are aware that you have a voice of influence. My only issue is the way you choose to deliver that voice.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

The list of women you’ve named are indeed the most influential. However, some of these girls are in their early twenties. They\u2019re still developing themselves. Remember that time of self-discovery? That time when you were trying to figure out who you were, what you wanted, but at the same time you were still battling issues of insecurities. It was a period of oxymorons. Famous or anonymous no one wants to feel singled out \u2013 especially at that time.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s no way that publicly name dropping the culprits will result in some sort of epiphany. It\u2019s going to create the same sort of \u201cus\u201d against \u201cthem\u201d scenario that the Twitter message created.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I like your points, but I think there\u2019s a better way to make them.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve mentored young girls for years. And although in most situations my experience outweighed their thoughts, there was a right and wrong way to deliver that message. When I truly wanted to help them and transform a situation, I had to put my self-righteousness on the back burner and figure out a way to create the change I wanted. Never mind what people thought of me. The change was my goal, not making my point public.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Pulling them to the side and discussing your thoughts \u2026 Yes! Perhaps making your points without calling anyone by name \u2026. Yes! Finger-pointing in a national article \u2026. No ma\u2019am. That\u2019s not the way to evoke change.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

You are in the entertainment industry \u2013 accomplished actress, writer and when all else fails Quincy Jones is you dad. I\u2019m hard-pressed to believe that you actually attempted to reach out to the women you personally name-dropped.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Is this article really about a true issue or is it about you setting the record straight and defending yourself?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

If you truly want to make a difference \u2013 as opposed to proving your point \u2013 pick up the phone. Last I checked they still work.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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